NICABM – How to Help Your Client Integrate and Heal Their Shadow Parts
The Part Your Client Wants to Hide Could Be the Key to Unlocking Their Growth
How to work with the shadow side
Everyone has parts of themselves that they’re embarrassed, ashamed, or even horrified of . . .
. . . and many clients go to great lengths to keep these parts hidden.
We call this the shadow side.
Problem is, no matter how deeply a client might bury these parts, they’ll continue to surface – often in ways that can harm their relationships, interfere with their work, and sap their self-worth.
So how can we help clients explore the parts of their shadow that they’re afraid for you to know about (or perhaps won’t acknowledge, even to themselves)?
We brought together 20 of the world’s top experts to share their best strategies for helping clients uncover – and maybe even come to accept – their shadow parts. Presenting . . .
How to Help Your Client Integrate and Heal Their Shadow Parts
How to Work with a Shadow Side That’s Rooted in Trauma
Bessel van der Kolk, MD Janina Fisher, PhD Frank Anderson, MD
Jennifer Sweeton, PsyD Ron Siegel, PsyD Christine Padesky, PhD
Usha Tummala-Narra, PhD Chris Willard, PsyD
- One Unique Challenge of Working with a Shadow Shaped by Trauma (and How to Approach It)
- An Internal Family Systems Approach to Working with Shadow Parts
- Three Clinical Presentations of a Trauma-Based Shadow Side
- Strategies to Establish Trust Before Beginning Work with a Client’s Shadow Side
- Why a Shadow Side That’s Based in Trauma Often Reacts Differently (and How That Can Impact Your Approach)
The Critical Link Between Shame and a Client’s Shadow Side (and How to Work with It)
Stephen Porges, PhD Thema Bryant, PhD Chris Irons, PhD
Ron Siegel, PsyD Christine Padesky, PhD Usha Tummala-Narra, PhD
Chris Willard, PsyD
- Strategies to Help Clients Begin to De-Shame Their Shadow
- How to Address the Physiological Distress of Shame, Blame, and the Shadow Side
- How to Work with Shame That Surrounds the Natural Desire to Feel Loved
- How to Ease Shame by Helping Clients See the Wisdom in Their Shadow Parts
- Techniques to Help Clients Sit with the Discomfort of Their Shadow (Rather Than Avoid It)
How to Work with an Anger-Driven Shadow Side
Pat Ogden, PhD Dennis Tirch, PhD
Deany Laliotis, LICSW Ron Siegel, PsyD Christine Padesky, PhD
- How to Approach a Shadow Side That’s Rooted in Anger and Racism
- Strategies to Help Clients Develop Compassion for an Angry Shadow Side
- How to Work with a Shadow Side That’s Cloaked in Victimhood
- How to Help Clients See the Chance for Redemption Within Their Shadow Side
- How to Help Clients Let Go of a Shadow-Fueled Identity That No Longer Serves Them
How to Skillfully Use Vulnerability to Help Heal the Shadow Side
Kelly Wilson, PhD Zindel Segal, PhD Jennifer Sweeton, PsyD
Ron Siegel, PsyD Christine Padesky, PhD Usha Tummala-Narra, PhD
Chris Willard, PsyD
- How to Use Your Own Vulnerability to Help Clients Explore Theirs
- How to Help Clients Overcome Their Hesitations About Being Vulnerable
- How to Work with a Client’s Drive for Success When It Impacts Their Shadow Side
- One Simple Technique to Calm the Amygdala and Begin to Bring in Vulnerability
- Why Our Traditional Training Around Disclosure and Neutrality Can Fall Short When Working with Shadow Parts (and What to Do Instead)
Strategies to Help Clients Embrace the Idea of Exploring Their Shadow Side
Terry Real, MSW, LICSW Shelly Harrell, PhD Deany Laliotis, LICSW
Ron Siegel, PsyD Christine Padesky, PhD Usha Tummala-Narra, PhD
Chris Willard, PsyD
- Three Considerations to Keep in Mind When Approaching a Client’s Shadow Side
- An Expert Strategy to Help Clients Develop a Relationship with Their Shadow Parts
- Acceptance vs. Blame: How to Help Clients Strike a Critical Balance with Their Shadow Side
- Psychoeducation About the Neurobiology of Shadow Parts
- Specific Language to Help Normalize the Shadow Side
How to Work with the Impact of a Client’s Shadow Side on Their Relationships
Ellyn Bader, PhD Stan Tatkin, PsyD, MFT Usha Tummala-Narra, PhD
Ron Siegel, PsyD Christine Padesky, PhD Chris Willard, PsyD
- A Playful Strategy to Help Couples Better Understand Each Other’s Shadow Parts
- How to Work with a Shadow Side that Forces Your Client to Lead a Double Life
- Two Techniques to Uncover Shadow Parts in a Relationship
- How to Work with a Client Who Projects Their Shadow on Their Partner
- Techniques to Help Couples Foster Healing in Their Relationships
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