Steven Kessler – How to Create a Self

Description How to Create a Self

The Key to Self-Confidence and Success

A new video course taught by Steven Kessler, MFT Therapist, Teacher, and Author

Your lack of self-confidence is not your fault. You just haven’t learned the energetic skills you need. It’s time to learn those skills.

Of course, you want a stable, solid, felt sense of Self.

You want to know who you are.

You want to know what you want.

And you want to feel confident and able to get what you want.

But no one develops that self-confidence automatically. It is the result of learning and practicing a particular set of energetic skills —

• skills that most people are not aware of
• skills that most parents can’t teach you
• skills that you didn’t learn in school
• skills that you don’t learn in psychotherapy

Without these skills, you’re left wondering, “What’s wrong with me? Why are some things so hard for me? Why do I feel so weak inside? Why can’t I just pull it together and do what’s needed?”

You can learn these skills. They’re not difficult. They’re not complicated. All it takes is practice — if you have a guide who can show you the way.

Once you develop these skills, you will have a stable, felt sense of Self anchored in your body. This will give you:

• the actual sensation of your Self – the feel, the flavor, the note …
• clarity about what you feel, what you like, what you want
• a center, a place to operate from
• a place to come back to if you get lost or dissociated

When you can feel your Self directly this way, you will feel a fullness in the core of your body. You will literally feel full of yourself. You will be able to know yourself directly, to know for certain that you exist, here and now, in this physical reality. This will free you from needing validation from others. Acknowledgment and praise will still feel good, but you will no longer feel hollow without it.

In the How to Create a Self course, you will learn the energetic skills that you missed and still need to develop. In each module, you will learn a new skill. Each week, we will practice what you’ve learned so far, answer your questions, and practice a new skill. By the end of the 7-weeks, you will have all the skills you need to develop a strong, stable, felt sense of Self anchored in your body.

During the course, your sense of yourself will shift. You’ll discover why certain things have been so hard for you up to now and how to make them easier. As you practice, week to week, you’ll become more aware of where your attention is located, moment to moment, and where to place it to feel your Self more vividly. Gradually, you will build the skills you need to feel strong, confident, and capable in the world.

Here’s What You’ll Learn In How to Create a Self

During this fun, exciting course, you’ll discover:

• 2 techniques to calm and recenter yourself when upset
• the 7 skills needed to develop a strong, stable, felt sense of Self
• the importance of anchoring that sense of Self in the body
• how to protect yourself from other people’s energies
• how to fill your space with your own energy and remove other energies
• a daily practice to keep you centered, stable, and strong
• “A felt-sense of Core is the Key to Self-Confidence!”

You’ll explore 7 modules:

Module 1: Calming and Centering Your Body

We will begin by helping you come out of the distress and overwhelm that has been conditioned into your body. You’ll learn two techniques to calm your body and bring yourself back to your own inner center.

In module 1 you’ll discover:

• how to calm your body anytime, anywhere
• how to re-center yourself in 5 seconds
• how to turn these practices into embodied skills

Module 2: Establishing Your Core Self

Everyone’s first task in life is to settle into the body and attach to it, a process known as Embodiment. Until you accomplish this, you will never feel safe here in the physical world. Embodiment is the first step in creating a strong, stable, felt sense of Self.

In module 2 you’ll discover:

• a quick way to come back to Presence
• the skill called Core
• the value of Core in knowing who you are and what you want
• why Core is the key to self-confidence
• how to integrate this new skill into the skills you’ve already learned

Module 3: Connecting with Support

We all need to feel both connected to the Earth and supported by it. If you have not developed this energetic connection, you feel unsupported and unstable — like you don’t really belong here. You may be a ‘push-over’ or a ‘doormat’. People may say you’re ‘ungrounded’.

In module 3 you’ll discover:

• the skill called Ground
• the value of Ground in experiencing belonging and support here
• why Ground is the key to stability
• how core, ground, and self-care are key to your safety and success
• how to integrate this new skill into what you’ve already learned

Module 4: Protecting Your Space

After creating a center, you must also create an Edge, a Boundary around your personal space. Your own space, your bubble, must be defined and protected. Other people’s thoughts, feelings, and energies should not be floating in and filling it up.

In module 4 you’ll discover:

• the skill called Edge or Boundary
• the real reason some people are ‘too sensitive’ and how to fix it
• the value of a strong energetic Boundary
• why Boundary is the Key to Individuation
• how to integrate this new skill into what you’ve already learned

Module 5: Filling Your Space

Along with defining your space, you must Fill your Space with your own energy. Your space should be yours and yours alone. You must also bring home stray strands of your attention so that you can be fully present in the here and now.

In module 5 you’ll discover:

• the skills called Filling Your Space and Tying Your Fibers
• why some people constantly fear invasion and manipulation
• the value of Filling Your Space
• the value of Tying Your Fibers
• how Filling Your Space protects you from invasion
• how Tying Your Fibers stops you from invading others
• how to integrate these new skills into what you’ve already learned

Module 6: Cleaning Your Space

Finally, you must learn how to clean your space. You do this by differentiating what is you from what is not you and removing what is not you from your space. This will give you mental and emotional clarity. Ideally, your space should always be filled with your own energy and no one else’s. Without doing this, you will constantly feel confused about what is you and what is not.

In module 6 you’ll discover:

• the skill called Me/Not Me
• why some people think that the thoughts and feelings of others are their own
• the effects of confusing Me with Not Me
• the value of doing Me/Not Me
• how Me/Not Me supports Individuation
• how to integrate this new skill into the skills you’ve already learned

Module 7: Living from Your Core

Now it’s time to create the Daily Routine that will support you and sustain you as you develop and strengthen these skills over time. This Daily Routine is the key to embodying all these skills and becoming strong, confident, and capable.

In module 7 you’ll discover:

• how to integrate all that you’ve learned into a simple Daily Routine
• how to do this Routine even in times of distress
• the value of a Daily Routine
• why the only real knowledge is embodied knowledge
• how regular practice is the key to embodying these skills

About Steven Kessler

Embark on a Life-changing Journey with a Master Guide

Steven Kessler, MFT has been studying people his whole life. For almost 40 years, he’s been a licensed psychotherapist, studying many different healing modalities and maps of personality, including Character Structure, the Enneagram, NLP, energy work, Thought Field Therapy, and EFT (Emotional Freedom Techniques), as well as spending 16 years in the Diamond Heart meditation school.

Since 1984, Steven has taught hundreds of groups and workshops in the U.S. and internationally, helping men and women heal their wounds and grow into their full adult selves. For over 15 years, he has been a student of Lynda Caesara, studying Character Structure, the direct perception of energy, and shamanism in the lineage of Grandfather Two Bears and the Southern Seers tradition.

His bestselling book, The 5 Personality Patterns, lays out a simple, clear, true-to-life map of personality that gives you the key to understanding people and relating to them effectively. Stephen M. Johnson, one of the most famous authors in the field, called it “one of the most useful popular psychology books I have ever seen.” Readers email him frequently with stories of how reading it has changed their lives.

When you say “YES” to this healing journey, you’ll discover:

• How to recognize the Patterns in yourself and others
• How to approach each Pattern
• How to speak so they will listen
• How to listen so they will talk
• How to continually re-center yourself
• How to relate successfully to anyone

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